DIVO ADARNI

DIVO  ADARNI

The  2nd  day  after the  Madavsoro is regarded as the day for exchanging  gifts between both the families.

What you need to keep ready  from Groom’s  side

Keep the Big ses ready with Soparo, Paro, Pigani,Gulabas, Paan , Sakar, kharek, badam, sopari,batasa, red Bangles on top of Sopara, Bowl of sweet Curd, 1 silver coin (Jarthost or Lakshmi),

One new Hanky/napkin.

For the Bride Adarni- ni Saree, Petticoat, Blouse, underwear, Sadro, Kasti, Shoes, Red Bengals on the Sopara) + Either Necklace or Earings from the set. Sagan-nu-envelope.

Shoes

Take the Saree set for the Bride’s mother (Sopra na Kapra) along with a sagan nu envelope.

Keep 5-7 envelopes ready for sagan to the other ladies who come along, as previously discussed.

One coin for Diva

Rial  available at Parsi Jeweller

Garland on the Ses

Garland for the Bride

Patlo with chalk and colour keep ready.

Refreshments

Achoo Michoo ni Khumchi to be kept ready for when the Bride side comes over.

 

 

What you need to keep ready  from Bride’s side

  1. Big Full Ses (optional unless the Groom’s side insists) with Soparo, Paro Pigani, Gulabas, Paan , Sakar, kharek, badam, sopari,batasa, red Bangles on top of Sopara, Bowl of sweet Curd, 1 silver coin (Jarthost or Lashmi),
  2. One new Hanky/napkin. Also put in this Ses (Full Vaga for the Groom) all the clothes or some of the clothes (rest can be taken in a bag) Shirts, Pants, Hankies, Socks, Sadra, Briefs, Kasti, Topi, Pheto/Paghri (or envelope)  Shawl, Shoes, Slippers, Soap, Soap Case, Hair Brush, Comb, Perfume.
  3. Watch or Buttons,/Chain Pendant/Bracelet. Vaga na rupiya nu sagan nu envelope. Garlanded
  4. In a Big Suitcase according to their financial status the Bride’s family give their daughter a year’s stock of clothes, necessary items like towels, bed sheets, linen, kitchen equipments, etc. to set up a new home. Garlanded
  5. Aakha varas ni Jewellery…Chain, Pendent, Bengals, Earrings etc. for regular use (can be given anytime)
  6. Utensils..Pad-na-vasan

 4 Big or Small  cooker/utensils  with a  lid as per requirement each filled with :

(lids should not be taken along they should be sent after the wedding)

 1 packet of raw Sev (vermacilli),

¼ kg. wheat,

One small packet of pure ghee, paan, sopari, kharek, sakar.

 One small packet of Jaggery and dry coconut vati.

Do not cover the utensils, take the lids separately or you may put in the suitcase.

If you put the utensils one above the other, then please put the utensil containing Sopari  on the top.

All utensils should be garlanded.

In another Khumcho Saree set for the Boy’s mother with a sagan nu envelope (Sasu-dakhal na kapra) with sagan-nu-envelope.

Saree set for Boy’s sister  with sagan nu envelope (Naran-dakhal na kapra) with sagan-nu-envelope.

One Coin to be put in the Diva.

Saree set for the Boy’s mother with a sagan nu envelope (Sasu-dakhal na kapra)

Saree set for Boy’s sister  with sagan nu envelope (Naran-dakhal na kapra)

Keep 5-7 envelopes ready for sagan to the other ladies who come along, as previously discussed.

Garlands for the Groom and other ladies who come along.

Refreshments for the guests.

Patlo with chalk and colour keep ready.

Achoo Michoo ni Khumchi  to be kept ready.

 

Groom’s side goes over to Bride’s place

First the Grooms side goes over to the Brides place with the Big ses. Girl’s mother welcomes you home with Achoo Michoo. After meeting everyone, make the Bride stand on the patla and do the sagan.  Give her all the clothes wrapped in so things don’t fall out.  She will go and change into her new clothes and when she comes out Grooms mother will do sagan and put a grain or two in the saree, wet the corner (Saree no chero thando karvano) with help of other women drape the saree on her, make her wear the glass red Bangles  and the to be Father-in-Law will put on the necklace or earings.  Mother in law will put on the Rial. Put on the Garland and take ovarna. Let everyone meet the Bride with Best Wishes. Let her come down the patla with her Right Foot.

Put one coin in the diva and wish Good Luck to the couple.

 

Bride’s mother now invites   Groom’s mother- to stand on the patla, does sagan and gives her Sasu-dakhal-ni- saree –full  set along with coconut,paan, sopari……etc. along with an sagan nu envelope. In one kora new mathabana (do not stitch the border of matabana) tie some sagan na rupiya and little chokha, in one corner of the mathabanoo, gaanth mari devano. (for Sasu-dakhal na kapra ni reet, you may with mutual understanding get the blouse, peticoat stitched to the bride’s measurement). This is called ‘Ghere tedvani reet’ when the girl comes back home to her mother’s place,  she may change into this saree and come if she so wishes.

OR –both side mothers-in-laws can keep the sarees for themselves and wear that at the wedding of their children., accordingly blouse, peticoate has to be stitched.

Next comes the Sagan for the Sister-in-Law, invite her to the patla and do sagan and present her with the Saree set (Naran-dakhal-kapra) with a sagan nu envelope.

Serve refreshments.

Groom’s mother  will do sagan  and give envelopes to all the ladies who have accompanied.

Groom’s family leaves taking the Bride along with them, when the Girl’s side come over to the Boy’s house they can take the Bride back with them.

 

Bride’s  side  goes to Groom’s  House along with Father-in-Law

They are welcomed in with Achoo Michoo.  After meeting all the guests. Ask the Groom to come to the Patla, do sagan and give the whole  vaga to him.  Father-in-Law will put the Pheta/Paghdi on his head and  put the shawl around him.  You may give the Gold Buttons  to him now.  Every one meets the Groom and he comes down with his right foot forward.

Groom’s mother now makes the mother-in-law stand on the patla, does sagan and gives her Sasu-dakhal-ni- saree –full  set along with coconut,paan, sopari……etc. along with an sagan nu envelope. In one kora new mathabana (do not stitch the border of matabana) tie some sagan na rupiya and little chokha, in one corner of the mathabanoo, gaanth mari devano. (for Sasu-dakhal na kapra ni reet, you may with mutual understanding get the blouse, peticoate stitched to the bride’s measurement). This is called ‘Ghere tedvani reet’ when the girl comes back home to her mother’s place, she may change into this saree and come if she so wishes.

OR –both side mothers-in-laws can keep the sarees for themselves and wear that at the wedding of their children., accordingly blouse, peticoate has to be stitched.

 

Now invite the sister-in-law on the Patla, do sagan gives  her Naran-dakhal-ni- saree –full  set along with coconut,paan, sopari……etc. along with an sagan nu envelope. In one kora new mathabana (do not stitch the border of matabana) tie some sagan na rupiya and little chokha, in one corner of the mathabanoo, gaanth mari devano.

Put  a coin in the Diva.

Serve refreshment to all.

Serve refreshments.

Bride’s  mother  will do sagan  and give envelopes to all the ladies who have accompanied.

After they all leave the Bride and Groom can have dinner to-ether and then go and leave the Bride home.

 

3rd day can be a free day to make last minute  preparation for the wedding.  Cleaning and polishing the Ses etc.

Today is the day for eating khichri (light food)  🙂  🙂

One comment

  • Gooleshtan Daruvala

    Is a great help to Mothers who are wondering what needs to be done in preparation for their children at the age of getting married. Most important not getting confused with others interfering with their opinions

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