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A FABLE FOR OUR TIMES

Some years ago, a young Dasturji, from a small town in Gujarat, accepted a posting to an Agiary in Mumbai. 

Some weeks after he arrived, he travelled on a bus from his home to Chopati. When he sat down, he discovered that the conductor had accidentally given him 1 rupee too much change. As he considered what to do, he thought to himself, ‘You’d better give the rupee back. It would be wrong to keep it. 

Then he thought, ‘Oh, forget it, it’s only a rupee! Who would worry about this little amount? In any case, the bus company already makes too much profit from us hardworking people and its fares are too high. A rupee wont be missed: I’ll just accept it as a ‘gift from God.’ 

When his stop came, he paused momentarily at the door. Despite his desire to keep the rupee, his conscience got the better of him and he handed the rupee to the conductor, saying, ‘Here, you gave me too much change.’

The conductor smiled broadly and said knowingly, ‘Aren’t you the new Parsi priest in our neighbourhood agyari?’

Yes’, he replied.

Well, said the conductor, Ive heard a lot of good things about Parsis. I just wanted to see what you would do if I gave you too much change.’

When the Dasturji stepped off of the bus, he was in a state of shock, and said, ‘Oh God, I almost sold my conscience for a Rupee!’

Our acts are the only Parsipanu some people will ever see. This is a good example of how much people watch us as Parsis, and will put us to the test! They don’t want us to fail – they hope we will come up to their high expectations. They want to tell their children that some people and communities do live up to high ideals. Don’t let them down. Don’t let yourself down. Always remember: you carry the good name of Parsis on your shoulders when you call yourself, ‘Parsi.’

Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

Meet Pune’s young and rising

Daniel Dorabjee, 27, director, Dorabjee’s Royale Heritage Mall

Daniel joined the family’s iconic business at Dorabjee at the age of 18 and runs the Royale Heritage Mall with his dad in the city. He has supervised the mall from its inception to what it offers today and continues to be involved in the process. With a degree in interior designing, his acute design sense reflects in the mall’s architecture. He will soon start an independent residential project.

“The real estate industry needs a boost from its existing problems. We need a smooth and time-saving process when it comes to the approval of our projects and ventures. Water scarcity is another issue that needs to be tackled at the earliest,” says the bike and fitness enthusiast .

http://www.hindustantimes.com/pune-news/actor-to-author-filmmaker-to-entrepreneur-meet-pune-s-young-and-rising/story-bop50HktQRYKrP3dQsfFuN.html

OF COFFEE & BAD DATES: KHUSHNUMA DARUWALA ON HER NEW BOOK

Here are some excerpts from our interaction with Khushnuma:

What did you hope to achieve through the book ’50 Cups of Coffee’?

I had a great laugh when I heard my friend’s stories. Everyone has suffered a bad date. This book is about celebrating all those mad and bad dates.

What is unique about the dating scene in India?

The apps here are a bit more conservative. In the West, the dating apps are absolutely out of the world — there are apps which match compatibility based on whether you like the same burrito toppings!

I have seen that a huge amount of youth go back to arranged dating. In the West, dating has more of a romantic connotation. Here, the tone is more interrogative, it is like resume-checking. Indeed, people even send in their resumes, and that formal structured language has creeped in even when talking about dating. Dating in India is formal and goal-oriented. There are rarely any romantic overtones, and questions like do you drink, what is your diet etc are commonplace.

What was the most funny or interesting incident that stood out to you?

Strangers discussing S&M, men discussing their bowel movements, so many things. What struck me was the absurdity of how people crossed boundaries. How what was socially acceptable was so routinely broken. The crazier the story, the better for me!

Source: SheThePeople.TV

Why is being single in the thirties considered a state of panic for a woman? Can you talk more about that urgency to get married?

This is changing a little bit in urban India. Unfortunately, there is a lot of societal pressure on a woman to have certain physical characteristics and to produce children. Men are also supposed to be ‘well-settled’. The gender norms and stereotypes are unfair on both sides.

You found a publisher after four years. Can you take us through that process — how you went about finding a publisher?

I started sending out proposals after I had finished the first 2-3 chapters. Many responded, saying it wasn’t a match, some didn’t respond at all. Pretty soon, I had run out of all my options. It just so happened that I was attending a book launch, and met someone from Penguin. They put me in touch with my editor who wanted to take the book on. It happened by chance, but the learning for me is to never give up. You never know when opportunity comes your way.

What was your writing process like?

I just started collecting all the stories people gave me, and I saw certain themes emerge. I knew that I did not want to turn this into a typical romance novel. The book went through many iterations.

Why only bad dates from a girl’s perspective? 

It just so happened to be from a girl’s perspective because that is how it started. But while writing the book, I heard plenty of bad date stories from my male friends as well. Even if I don’t do a sequel from a guy’s perspective, i will definitely at least write an article from a guy’s perspective!

At the end of the day, marriage isn’t the end all and be all of everything, says Khushnuma.

http://shethepeople.tv/of-coffee-bad-dates-khushnuma-daruwala-on-her-new-book/

Tara Khandelwal / 50 Cups of Coffee, dating, Khushnuma Daruwala,