On the wedding Day !


THE DAY OF THE WEDDING
The day begins with Chowk Toran Divo/Batti Loban sagan ni sev, dahi etc.
See that the Divo/Batti lasts for 24 hours.
After bath Clean and arrange the Full Ses, put a bowl of rice.
Bride/Groom takes bath milk and flower and do sagan and give the coconut in his hand which He/She has to take it for the wedding along with a sagan nu evelope, go to Agiary and seek blessings of Ahura Mazda.
Varadh Pattar Ni Baaj will be done this morning in the Agiary…this is done to invite Ram Yazad and All our dear Asho Farohar to the wedding.

What the Groom’s side will take in the evening for wedding:
You may take few things in the bag everything will not fit into the Ses
Full Ses with every thing fresh and new including fresh kankoo.
One white handkerchief for Nan Nahvane mate.
One Napkin
Some tissues
In the Ses put Nahan Nahavano Towel, Chappals
Soap pot, Talcum Powder, Shampoo, perfume, Hair Brush,
Shirt, Pant, Sadro, Underwear, Shoes, Socks, Kasti, Hankerchief.
Pheta/Pagdi
Ara antar no doro
1 set of saree for the Bride (Pachli lagan na Kapra) which can be given to the girl before or after the wedding.
Envelope + Ring for the Bride’s brother .
Wedding Ring /Band for the Bride (keep it in your purse)
Envelope + Shawl for Bride’s father
Coconut for the wedding
Sasra Khore Bese teni Jewelry earings or necklace (whatever is decided beforehand, something like a jesus piece necklace might be innapropriate here.)
All the envelopes
Bag for all the gift envelopes
Extra Plastic Bags to put shoes and wet towel etc.
Everything in the ses that you prepared yesterday.
If there is new furniture in Groom’s house put garland on all.
Keep Achoo Michoo tray ready for the night when you return home.
While leaving from home do sagan and give another coconut (the one for the wedding will be given after Nahan)
Also remember to keep the Bed ready for the Bridal Couple for the night and keep one coconut ready, Mother in law will take the coconut round seven times over their heads and break it. Take ovarna with rice.

What the Bride’s side will take in the evening for wedding:
You may take few things in the bag everything will not fit into the Ses
Full Ses with every thing fresh and new including fresh kankoo.
One Napkin
Some tissues
In the Ses put Nahan Nahavano Towel, Chappals
Soap pot, Talcum Powder, Shampoo, perfume, cosmetics, safety pins, hair pins.
Hair clips, hair brush,
Saree, Blouse, Peticoat, Sadro, Underwears, Shoes, Kasti, Hankerchief.
1 set of saree for the Bride (Pachli raat na lagan na Kapra) which can be given to the girl before or after the wedding.
Ara antar ni saree/material
Ara antar no doro
One Kanchli
Envelope + Ring for the Bride’s brother .
Wedding Ring /Band for the Groom (keep it in your purse)
Coconut for the wedding
Envelope + Shawl for Bride’s father
All the envelopes
Bag for all the gift envelopes
Extra Plastic Bags to put shoes and wet towel etc.
Everything in the ses that you prepared yesterday.
Chairs to be sent to the Baug before hand
One teapoy
Lamp with bulb and plug.
Varbeda ni Tamri (or a vase or ..)
Pug dhoyani tray or khumchi with a small glass in it.
Ghee apiyano kasio (copper) with a small paket of Ghee and Jaggary which will be taken by the Dastoorji who comes for Nahan.
Make prior arrangement for the Beautician to come.
While leaving from home do sagan and give another coconut (the one for the wedding will be given after Nahan)

Ceremony to be done after Nahan
When the Groom is ready do sagan, put on Garland, Give Shawl, Flower Bouquet And Lagan nu Coconut.
Groom will be invited by the Mother-in-law to stand on the steps of the stage where she is waiting to do Achoo Michoo to the Groom.
Bride’s mother does sagan to the Groom and Bride’s mother puts on the watch.
Groom will then go and sit next to Dasturji awaiting the Bride.
Sister-in-law will come wash his hands and the Groom will give her an envelope.
Both the Father-in-laws will exchange shawl and envelopes.
If any senior member of family is to respected you can invite them and give them shawl and/or an envelope
Brother –in-law to be invited, do sagan and put on the ring and give sagan nu envelope.
Arrange for someone to stand near the gate to welcome the guests in.
Persons who are coming to stand as witness should be made ready.
Once the Bride is ready, both the Bride and Groom along with the witnesses will have to sign the form of willingness to get married in the presence of the Dastoorji. Marriage certificate takes time in coming from the Parsi Punchayat.

Get Ready for the Ashirwad
Dastoorji, Both the witnesses,Bride and the Groom will do kasti, when they put their coconut down please take care.

First the Groom will go to the stage and Mother-in-law will do Achoo Michoo and boy will be made to sit on the chair the two witnesses with the help of the Dastoorji they will hold the Ara Antar nu kapdu in front of the Groom.
Entry of Bride
Bride walks down the isle on the arm of her dear father, who leads her to the stage the mother takes overna with rice and welcomes her on the stage, makes her sit on the chair in front of the boy. Mother of Groom and Mother of Bride will stand behind the respective chair along with the other 4 married ladies. The Groom and Bride will hold right hand in shake hand and in the left hand they will be given some rice to hold.
Dastoorji will take the Sutar –no-doro and tie it around the hands while chanting prayers. Then the Sutar=no-doro is tied around the chair 7 times praying 7 Yatha-ahu variyo. As soon as the 7th Yath-ahu-variyo is prayed the Bride and the Groom has immediately throw rice on each other. Who ever throws first is the winner. Sometimes both throw at the same time ..All is well.
While this ceremony is being done that time presence of fire is a must (loban). Bride and groom pay respect to the fire and bow their heads.

Now the Bride is made to sit next to Boys chair and the Ashirwad begins. During the sacred and important ceremony everyone standing behind, the Bride and the Groom should pray Yatha, Ashem and when asked ‘Pasande Kardam’ they should bow their head and say yes. Both the witnesses will also be asked the same.
The Groom’s father will put garland on the Dastoorji and give them an envelope.
After the Ashirwad ceremony the Groom will put on the wedding ring and then the Bride will put on the wedding ring and kiss each other.
Sister –in-law will come to wash the feet of the Groom with milk. Just put a drop of milk on each shoe and Groom will give an envelope.
Groom’s sister will tie the end of Dagli and girls saree paloo end with pin (known as chheda bandwana) after the Groom gives and envelope, she will remove the pin (care should be taken that the saree does not tear).
Request the guest not to come on the stage right away and the Bridal Couple should be allowed to go the Fire Temple to take the Blessings of Atash Padshah and pray for the Long, Happy, Contended and Successful Wedded life.
After coming back from the Fire Temple the Bride can adjust her Saree, hair, touch up make-up and come back to stage for all the guests to meet.
Dinner is announced, move around the guests meet everyone.
Certain payment has to be done immediately like Music, Electrician etc.
Take care that you check everything and arrange to take Chairs, teapoy, lamp all the bags, ses etc.
On leaving, the Bride’s side can go to leave the bride home.
Groom’s mother will do Achoo Michoo and welcome the Bridal Couple home.

If the couple is going Iranshah the next day keep the bag ready with fresh/decent clothes for Atashbehram, Hotel booking details, Tandorasti (if) names of both side family. Travel arrangement to and fro etc.

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