Parsi Zoroastrian Matrimonial Meet – Ahmedabad – 27/28 Oct 2018
Endeavour by Micro Minority Community – Parsi Zoroastrians
Matrimonial Meet at Ahmedabad.
The Government of India even do take care with interest of micro minority / mallest communities in India. There are many facilities being provided by the Ministry of Minority Affairs, Government of India. In case of Parsi Zoroastrians community, which is accounted as most micro minority community in India to influence the boys and girls to get married at an early age, produce more children and increase the population. A question is raised – whether the community by name Parsi Zoroastrians in India is a Minority community. Answer is big NO. They are accounted under head “Others”. This was brought to the notice by Mrs. Pearl Mistry, Counselor of Jiyo Parsi Programme, being undertaken by PARZOR Foundation under influence of Ministry of Minority Affairs, Government of India. She had highlighted in an opening of the event speech that Parsis Zoroastrians according to latest 2011 census, Parsis in India are accounted at 57,264, against one of the earliest census in 1941 at 114,000. May be by 2021, when the pupulationof India will be at 1.3 trillion, 130 crore, the number of Parsis expected at 58,000 for which increase there are number of schemes being mooted by Ministry of Minority Affairs, Government of India. The population of Parsis in India is at present level of 00.0048% of total population of India. Parsi community is not placed as a Minority since they are less than 100,000 population. They are accounted as part of the class of minority community under head “Others”.
An idea of arranging Matrimonial Meet was mooted by one Mrs. Kety Daruwala, a Trustee in Ahmedabad Parsi Panchayat as also holding Trusteeship with many other trusts in Ahmedabad. Her idea was not accounted seriously, however, when she approached likeminded private other trusts in Ahmedabad since major requirement to arrange such a meet was Finance and Physical attendance. Both came to her rescue – a trust by name D&MGCT – Dhanjishaw and Manijeh Gamir Charitable Trust when one of the Trustee – Mr.Porus Karanjawala was there [He died in last August only], decided to offer financial help, while physical work was accepted by a group of young generation – PYLA – Parsi Youth League of Ahmedabad. The testators of the trust, late Dhanjishaw and Manijeh had no children but keeping in mind todays reality of having married life and children, to keep on population of the Parsis at a reasonable level had created the trust with one of the objective which was fulfilled by the present trustees. The initiative work of the meet was started way back in July this year – 4 months before schedule meet took place on 27th and 28th October 2018. Tragic death of Porus during last August was main loss of guidance, however, other trustees, Mr. Aspy Bharucha and Mr. Jamshed Shroff took initiative to make the event successful.
It is rightly said that for a good cause the Great God always remain present to help. Accounting this in mind, PARZOR, Jiyo Parsi joined as co-ordinator of the event. Their contribution was widely accepted by the Trustee – Mr.Aspy Bharucha in his opening speech of the session on 27th October.
There were 144 registration took place, out of which 112 confirmed to participate. The ratio was like 1 girl to 3 boys. There were 31 girls confirmed to attend against 81 boys. However accounting few to drop out and few to join on last movement, there were almost 111 participants between 31 girls and 80 boys. The participants were from across India, accounting main cities – the host Ahmedabad, then Mumbai, Surat, Hyderabad/Secunderabad, Pune, Navsari, Jamshedpur, and many. The organisers had meticulously planned participants stay at one three star hotel with all relative requirements like stay in, food, conference, etc., etc.. Very first night stay was accounted with fun and food – dance and dinner at a community’s place at Kankaria Zorastrian Hall which was bigger to enjoy. The main theme in having two days stay was that far off from places when young generation came to a purposeful event should know each other well, have enough dialogued and personality exchange, etc.. The two days events went with opening session, serious warming of the session, self-introduction, games, knowing liking and disliking and few debatable points accounted.
Most important debatable points were from each side – from Girls – it was “Boys are Mama’s pet” and “Girls are Fussy”. Total participants were divided into 9 groups, and each groups were asked to present issues both in favour and against, of course each side presented very well present burning issues within the community. Boys had flatly refused to accept the version “Boys are Mana’s pet”. Good debate took between the 9 groups and was Boys argued against such a belief and proved to the level that “Boys are not Mama’s Boys”. Likewise, Girls also refused with the version that “Girls are Fussy”. Most of the girls today are highly educated and that by any chance they have their high standard requirement. They don’t like at all to be called “Girls are Fussy” in as much as they are better of in education, professional and or employment career, earning good salary and would always love to see that their counterpart is equally carries higher education, good employment with descent salary, etc… Any refusal from the girls should not be accounted as “Girls are Fussy”. By any standard, they are having higher choice and understanding likewise seen in other communities as well. .
The participants, both Boys and Girls, at the event were well balanced accounting Education, and placement as either employment or professionally. Equally they were at part. Also they were well placed both in Professional as also Employment Career with higher income earning. The average age group amongst the boys was around 33 years whereas in case of girls it was around 25. Both gender were found equally good in games both mental strain and physical strain were decided. The fun and joy during both days shared by each one as great event with good harmony amongst themselves. Many have closure to each other though they stay apart from one corner of the country to another one, as also within participation from own city, they have come together first time.
Two days sessions ended with quite good result. The organizer could know at the end of two days event that there were two couple could confirm that they have found right type of their match and decided to be united soon. There were other 7 also equally found their choice of mate to decide in near future of their united life. The participants liked the session of “Self Introduction of Married Life” wherein, three couple from Ahmedabad were selected – one with 42 years of marriage anniversary and when both were from different places across India with almost 1400 km., distance, second with 31 years of marriage anniversary, being well settled in their family a career, and third one with almost 16 years of marriage anniversary well placed in business established. Each one narrated how and what adjustments were made by them for their successful married life.
The Feedback was collected from each of the participant to arrange next session better than the one held recently. This was the 5th such session arranged in last 2 decade in Ahmedabad. Most of the participants have offered “Good” to “Very Good” ratings. Each one liked arrangement made by the Organiser and commended the work performed by the volunteers. Most of the participant opined “yes” when asking their views on the event whether they have been satisfied and gained out of the event.
Mr. Aspy Bharucha the trustee and convener of the event thanked all participants particularly those who had come from far off place. He thanked personally each of the organizer – Mrs. Kety Daruwala, and Mr. & Mrs. Jamshed Shroof, and volunteers with whose help the success of the event had taken place, to name few – all PYLA committee members, Mr. & Mrs. Arize Bokdawala, Hoshedar Daboo, Cyrus Darwalla, Bomi Shethana, Mrs.Pearl Mistry from JIYO Parsi office at Mumbai. He thanked Mrs.Pearl Mistry who stayed with the event for two days and conducted various sessions which were of very high standard to understand what the Government, Jiyo Parsi are and would like to do for the community.